Why am I taking you serious?

Have you ever gave someone your all but all that your getting is inconsistency and a wondering mind? I know that it may seem cliche to ask but have you ever stopped to ask yourself why are you giving your all to an inconsistent person? Although the inconsistency is a problem, it's not solely that person's problem. I say that because if you are allowing the inconsistency and you are still hanging on to something that isn't there then it makes it partially your fault too! A person will only do what you allow them to do to you! At some point regardless of talking stage or actually in a relationship you have to speak up voice your feelings and ask if it can be fixed. If that person is not trying to fix it and you know it then you are showing them it's OK to treat you the way that they are! There is nothing that is going to change a person other than if it's something they really want to do. Believe it or not sometimes you have to love or like a person from a distance. You can't always stay in situations because of how strongly you feel or how you believe things will change. Rule of thumb for me is people are consistent with what they really want and what they don't want to live without. So when you are thinking and your mind is wondering how does he feel about me or how does she feel about me just know if the person hasn't or won't tell you then just watch their actions towards you. You shouldn't have to think about the consistency of a person because they will be so consistent it won't give you the opportunity to do so! If a person can't be consistent with you and have your mind wondering then love yourself enough to say this isn't fair to me and begin to evaluate your next move regardless of what it is just don't give your all to someone who is inconsistent and have your mind wondering you don't deserve that!

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  1. Agree! Commitment and consistency are the key attitudes in any relationship!

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    1. Thank you for sharing! I absolutely agree it's key always.

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  2. Inconsistency is such a buzzkill for me.. If you care about a person, BE CONSISTENT, it's that easy.

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    1. Thank you for sharing! I feel the exact same way something so easy so rarely done.

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  3. Totally agree with that consistency key.

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    1. Thank you for sharing! I agree it's key always!

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  4. Key to all relationships is consistency and I agree. Wonderful article, LaToya.

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    1. Thank you for sharing Owen! Yes without consistency there can't be growth in the relationships. Thank you I appreciate that!

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  5. Consistency is key I say that about 40 times a week! YES!

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    1. Thank you for sharing and you deserve consistency so say it as many times as you have to don't except nothing less!

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  6. You need to know that you can trust them to come through. but that can happen only if they do always, not once in a while. Totally agree on consistency!


    Gayathri @ Musings Over Nothing

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    1. Thanks for sharing. Your right about that without trust and consistency no growth and without trust you really don't have anything.

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  7. I totally agree. This is a very good lesson to keep in mind!

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    1. Thank you for sharing I appreciate that

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  8. Consistency is so important in this world.. be it personal life or professional. Good reminder.

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    1. Thank you for sharing I definitely agree with you on that no matter what it is you have to be consistent.

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  9. I agree with you completely, inconsistency is really a big problem. I sometimes am guilty of doing it myself, but I am trying to work hard on it. Thanks for sharing this post, it is really inspiring. :)

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    1. Thank you for sharing Aditi! Keep working on it you will be where you want to be with it soon! Since you have recognized it you definitely will make the progress you want! Thank you so much I appreciate that! :-)

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  10. Consistency goes parallel with trust. These both qualities work together to form a great relationship. Nice post!

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    1. Thank you Amit! I definitely agree with that it goes hand in hand have to have both! Thank you so much!

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  11. Such true words, it's important to only keep the people in your life who help you be better :)

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    1. Thank you Kim! I agree with that you have to surround yourself with people who has good intentions for you!

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  12. I can be a bit flaky, but that is because I have a lot going on, but my feelings are always consistent.

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    1. Thank you for sharing Lindsey! I understand that definitely!

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  13. Thanks for sharing, these are true situations occured to us.

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  14. I agree with you...there are really times when we let other people treat us unfair because we let them. And you're right, we need to be kind to ourselves, too. Because we deserve the best.

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    1. Thank you for sharing! I definitely agree we deserve the best and we as women have to keep on pushing until we find what is for us!

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  15. What an awesome article and such an interesting read, glad that you share this with us

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    1. Thank you soooo much I appreciate that! Your more than welcome!

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  16. This is so very true. As much as the other person's inconsistencies are on their end, we have to look at our habit of holding on to them even when we know we shouldnt. Great food for thought.

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    1. Thank you so much! Definitely as women we love so easily sometimes and the person we love just choose not to provide that love but we have to be strong and do the hardest thing even it means to walk away or it becomes our fault if we accept it.

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  17. I feel you. I had my ex before that I gave him all of what I have but receive nothing from him and frustrations. It was really sad and hope it won't happen to my daughter as well.

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    1. I absolutely don't like when that happens and you are a queen I'm sorry you had to go through that but you did what you had to do and your daughter will be ok if she runs into that problem because she has a strong mother who has demonstrated exactly what she should do in the same situation. Thank you so much for sharing

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  18. I love this and there is so much truth to it.I need to remember this so I really appreciate your sharing this!
    XO
    Via Bella blog

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  19. Aww your welcome and I appreciate that. You will remember and be just fine just keep pushing and get everything you deserve and nothing less!

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  20. Totally agree! Commitment is one of the key attitudes in any relationship! Great post.

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  21. I totally agree with you! In my opinion, consistency is the key to success. There is so much depth in your thoughts. Really enjoyed reading this. Quite intense!

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    1. Thank you so much Veethee I appreciate that! I'm happy that you enjoyed it! When I write it comes from a real genuine place and I'm happy you could connect with this post that means a lot to me!

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